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HoldingHeidi
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WOC Avoid Betterman
Sep 12 2026 06:45PM more by HoldingHeidi
Tags: Inland Empire , Random (All tags)

If you are a woman of color, I would suggest avoiding this man like the plague. He reached out to me after I just so happened (thank goodness) to see him in another providers album in a not so flattering light and I made a light joke asking him if he was aware I was black (he made disparaging comments about black women in his text to another provider).

I’m guessing my light joke struck him the wrong way and his response is……what you see.

In my humble opinion a man with these opinions yet continues seeking out this same demographic he claims to feel this way about is DANGEROUS! Just throwing it out there..
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CompanionEstella
City of San Diego, San Diego, CA
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Sep 12 2026 08:58PM     link to this

Thanks for the warning. <3

Sorry you had this interaction.
DahliaLove
Long Beach, LA, CA
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Sep 13 2026 02:57PM     link to this

from what I remember he has had similar issues with other providers.

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fatherod54
Inland Empire, CA
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Sep 13 2026 03:03PM     link to this

This is why I will never give a deposit, unless I happen to not be able to make my appointment, then making a deposit would be warranted for a upcoming date.
mach5
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Sep 13 2026 05:11PM     link to this

I was burned once making a deposit. Never again.
DahliaLove
Long Beach, LA, CA
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Sep 13 2026 07:07PM     link to this

just wondering why you think deposits are the issue or point of this blog....
Fun4Dayz
Inland Empire, CA
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Sep 13 2026 09:11PM     link to this

Notes made about the gents unwilling to make a deposit for their visit. Too many of you gents cancel last minute or flake on the girls, for us not to request them, at this point.
mach5
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Sep 13 2026 11:42PM     link to this

In Betterman's response to the OP was that he put down a $100 deposit and got ghosted after driving to her location. It may not have been the OP's point, but it was a point made.
NismoZ32
Orange, OC, CA
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Sep 14 2026 01:14AM     link to this

He really didn’t live up to his name. How ironic.
June.Moon
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Sep 14 2026 08:10AM     link to this

"The only problems ive had on this site were black women scamming"



Yet there are so many safety blogs proving otherwise lmfao. Why did he even bring up race? So lame
feeling-young
Anaheim, OC, CA
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Sep 14 2026 09:05AM     link to this

He probably was pissed off. And it was the only way he could vent, for giving a deposit and not getting it returned. I am not condoning his response.

Example:

A partial payment given as a pledge or guarantee that you will complete a purchase. For example, paying $50 down to hold a bicycle at a store.

But if you never receive the bicycle you should get your deposit back.

This is why I do not give deposits anymore. Been burned twice.

"Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me," So shame on me and it ruins it for others in the future.

Peace out and have a wonderful day.
Trojantony27
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Sep 14 2026 09:45AM     link to this

Janeth24 gave him a bad red rating!

If you pissed off Janeth24, then you really do have a problem, she is one of the sweetest accommodating ladies here.

"Dude" just needs to go away...
DahliaLove
Long Beach, LA, CA
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Sep 14 2026 02:08PM     link to this

mach5 - That is a wild take away.

HoldingHeidi
CA
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since Sep 21 2019

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Sep 17 2026 10:49AM     link to this

I can understand being weary about sending a deposit but the comments made around it were a reason for pause. I don’t agree with anyone’s money being taken or time being wasted, if she wasn’t able to see him she should have absolutely given his money back.

It’s interesting how responses by individuals can unveil who they truly are and how they feel underneath it all..
dznutzgg
Santa Ana, OC, CA
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since Mar 16 2026

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Sep 17 2026 05:48PM     link to this

He shouldn't have brought race into this but he was venting about the non refunded hundo
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