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Kamilah_Kreams
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Spend hours responding to gentleman to no avail!
Jul 26 2026 11:55AM more by Kamilah_Kreams
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HELP I need to know what am I doing wrong here. I get plenty responses to my classifieds but I struggle with my gentleman to follow through! I've asked around my rates aren't to high, I have pictures I respond in a timely manner and I make sure to keep professional and respectful. Is it my pictures need updating? Or is this happening to other girls too??

Accepting constructive criticism
      
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ColossusJones
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Jul 26 2026 12:27PM     link to this


Use canned responses to respond with answers to the most common questions and boom, half your day is freed up.
littlemissalice
City of Los Angeles, LA, CA
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Jul 26 2026 01:03PM     link to this

You're not doing anything wrong
Mon_Capitan
SGV, LA, CA
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Jul 26 2026 01:48PM     link to this

I'm sure video verification and no AA helps.

Cap
witler5
OC, CA
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Jul 26 2026 02:10PM     link to this

Thats normal. But maybe also Location where you are staying
Lucy23
Irvine, OC, CA
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Jul 26 2026 02:14PM     link to this

Get used to it. They will text you until your fingers fall of if you let them.
remo_williams
Irvine, OC, CA
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Jul 26 2026 02:26PM     link to this

you have 4 pictures up - as they say, a picture is worth a 1,000 words.

I complement you on showing face shots, many women don't - so that's a good thing for many guys.

However, you might get more business if you throw a candid shot in here where you are smiling & having a good time.

The pics I see of the 4, show a gal that isn't smiling.

To be blunt, I'm sure few women are here for any other reason than the money, but they are able to show their clients a good time, and that begins with giving the illusion to your clients that you are glad to see them & enjyoy their company.

Pics shown, are just sour - no guy wants to spend time with someone who dosen't want to be there & is a dead fish.

Just my two honest cents.

dznutzgg
Santa Ana, OC, CA
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Jul 26 2026 02:56PM     link to this

questionable ratings. a female rated you in-person professional. then 2 mixed casuals. and a negative from i guess a no show

i'd give it some time.
1972monarch
Huntington Beach, OC, CA
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Jul 26 2026 03:51PM     link to this

It's hard to tell why this is happening to you without knowing how you respond to requests for information. But the one thing that is visible to all is who you have rated and who has rated you back. There is one female in your network who has less than a stellar rep on this site at this time. It may or may not be deserved. But to some it may look like you are part of a crew that people are being warned to stay away from.
preston0o1
Inland Empire, CA
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Jul 26 2026 03:57PM     link to this

You only have 1 guy rating since joining 4 months ago and already have 1 negative rating, that to me is a bit of a red flag, but I know others won't care about it. If your rates aren't the issue, maybe your service isn't just what they are looking for, maybe hosting in other locations would help also
billinirvine
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Jul 26 2026 04:43PM     link to this

^check out the less than stellar ratings on the dude who rated her.
We'll likely be reading about him in the future.
James3431
Inglewood, Inland Cities, LA, CA
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Jul 26 2026 04:59PM     link to this

No reviews I'm in a few clubs but there's nothing saying you're safe or deliver service as described so maybe asked to be reviewed. Also I have a note on your profile saying No AA so I'm assuming I've reached out personally in the past but couldn't set up an appointment b/c of that rule. That'll make a bunch of guys ignore your ads in the future.
FlappyNutSack
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Jul 26 2026 05:03PM     link to this

Also your friends scream managed and have shit reputations so easy to assume you do too.

But then again I could be wrong.
DahliaLove
Long Beach, LA, CA
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Jul 26 2026 08:05PM     link to this

your network could be an issue.

FlappyNutSack
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Jul 26 2026 09:15PM     link to this

Yea, that.
Devin_Peridot
LA, CA
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Jul 26 2026 09:19PM     link to this

A whole lot of guys are shopping around. There will always be an many more initial contacts then bookings. Its partly a numbers game. Everything that was said before me should be taken very seriously. They are telling you the truth. You are the company you keep.
Gbannana
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Jul 26 2026 10:59PM     link to this

I want to shed some light on this because it comes up a lot!
Now I can’t speak for all guys but but I think the majority would agree…..

We are visual so the first thing we look at is your pics. If we like those then the next thing we look for is rates/services/location. Kept in mind that this is no different from you ladies going into a store to shop (for clothes for example). First you want to make sure you like the item, then you look at the price tag, then you probably try it on to see how it fits/looks. It’s a process right?

For me I have a job where I drive around SoCal for a living. I have multiple appointments for the day and sometimes someone cancels which might give me time for a sesh and sometimes someone takes longer than expected which makes it hard to book in advance.

So for me if I like you, I ask for your rates and services and I save them in my notes. If I really want to see you then I subscribe to you. Then when my schedule provides me an opportunity then I look to see who is working in the area I’m in. Since I already know the rates and services for the girls I’m interested in, I don’t have to waste time. Plus when I do contact you I’m ready to book the apt.

Hopefully this helps ladies!
dznutzgg
Santa Ana, OC, CA
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Jul 27 2026 12:06AM     link to this

blogging helps. anything but politics and gas prices. don't wanna piss off some guys. it's like a free ad that's not an ad. eventually someone will bite. then they'll write a review. good or bad something helps. lots of ai altered images nowadays.... recycled dated pix, clever angles, duck faces, and whatever voodoo you girls use. words from another guy is gonna worth more than 100mb of pix.

i've seen people who were rated pooly/advised to avoid but i rated higher in my own reviews. iykyk

i'm expecting blogs about in-n-out hamburgers soon
yogibronx
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Jul 27 2026 07:51AM     link to this

Gbnanna....perfectly stated!
RandyRisco
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Jul 27 2026 08:28AM     link to this

Gbannana for the win! His post very closely resembles my experience on HX. My issue lately has been providers that either do not respond or will not share rates. I agree that pictures are key but also if you have good blog contributions it will give me incentive to check out your profile. I really appreciate gals who are transparent with their rates and services so up front I can tell whether we are a good match or they are within my budget. I respect how providers value their time and services but there needs to be alignment with personal resources.
Dwd135
San Diego, CA
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Jul 27 2026 09:12AM     link to this

Use canned replies and free your time


Add more pics


I also dont see ladies who replies dont add details w.r.t. service



Not sure about your rates .. may be an issue

Gbannana
OC, CA
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Jul 27 2026 09:18AM     link to this

To Randy’s point I will add…. That it’s not all about price. I’d prefer dfk over bbbj so I’m willing to pay a little more for someone that offers it, but….. if it’s in your menu and you don’t honor it, or it’s half assed and you avoid it, then there’s no repeat for me! I think a lot of girls sell the experience with words but don’t deliver with actions and then they wonder why they don’t have repeat customers. HX is an unforgiving place to do that because we all talk and share. There have been many that I wanted to see and then changed my mind after searching blogs
Gringoloco
City of Los Angeles, LA, CA
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Jul 27 2026 10:07AM     link to this

I personally look for dfk, although I’m not much to look at. If someone even lists lfk (even with dfk too) I know I won’t get dfk. If they indicate dfk based on hygiene, I know I won’t get dfk, and I brush my teeth and floss twice a day. I think, at least from my personal experience, saying hygiene is just a way to say “connection” which is associated with attraction. And being a 3 or 4 on the 1-10 scale makes it a true rarity for me.
Sbsurf40s
LA, CA
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Jul 27 2026 10:52AM     link to this

There are a number of factors how most base their decisions on; the looks, the locations, the loots, and availability. If you have those balanced just right, you will be busier.
The clearer the pictures of how you look overall plays a big part as well. Obscure, partial, heavily filtered pics show that you have something to hide. Take notes from the albums of DelilahRose, ArabianQueen, PrettyKitty, LizMaiz, MissPixies, etc.
Another thing I never understand when listing has no dfk, the usual reasoning has been depending on the hygiene. But that same listing includes bbj, what's the logic in that?
darthspiker
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Jul 27 2026 12:10PM     link to this

Pictures do help. Lizmaiz has 200 pics and a large network. Gorgeous.Lisa refuses to post pics and hasn't had a new network connection in 3 years.

Start 1 new pic at a time. Every time you post an ad, post a picture. When your picture falls out of the "New Uploads" section, add another pic to keep your exposure out there.

To save memory, reduce the size of your pics. A quick way to do that is text the photo to yourself. The texting app will reduce the photo. Download the photo from the text and use it to upload to HX.

If you need points to upload pictures, create an album that requires points to purchase. Just make sure that album shows more than what are in your free albums.
rugmuncher
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Jul 27 2026 01:28PM     link to this

Initial interest is entirely on looks.

Then it's your response and your menu/rates.

If we want to book or have follow up questions, then it comes down to how quickly you respond and then how you respond. If you are painful or bitchy or slow or just make the whole process more difficult, we lose interest.

Above all it's a numbers game. Most of us are shopping and not necessarily dead serious about booking especially if it's our first communication.

The providers who i have seen before but need a refresh on menu/rates and to see if she is available...those are usually serious inquiries and it just comes down to whether we can agree on a time and a date and of course the terms (which are established in PM or text).

Good luck. Personally I don't think there is an issue with your pics but I like curvy and busty. A nice smile helps but you weren't scowling.
Tatiana36dd
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Jul 27 2026 03:23PM     link to this

Come to NC and travel! I luv to share my friends!
Dakine_grrl
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Jul 27 2026 04:19PM     link to this

It's interesting to see the shoe on the other foot for a change
Gbannana
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Jul 28 2026 09:50AM     link to this

Great pointers for the girls on pics, menu, and location!

Gringo and rug made some great points as well.

I know this is a hard business for the girls; creating a profile, advertising, sending info, screening, scheduling, taking care of their own hygiene between clients, not know what is walking through the door and having to put a smile on and become an actress, putting up with hagglers, assholes via text, calls, in person, stalkers, etc.! That being said, when you do get the respective guys that show up groomed, clean, brushed teeth and clean breath, you should do you best to make that a repeat customer. I’ve seen so many women on here one time and would not repeat because the didn’t honor any kissing (I have straight white teeth and I bring a toothbrush and mouthwash into the room and make sure they see me use it), laid their like a dead fish, started telling me to hurry and finish 15 minutes into an hour sesh, pics were fake, attitude was bad, they stalled like crazy to kill time, wanted me to show up showered but didn’t clean up after peeing, couldn’t honor a set apt…. Just to name a few.

Others I would love to see more often but I do work a ton and my schedule can be hard to line up with.
Sly69
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Jul 28 2026 11:01AM     link to this

There are others but if you want to see a sample. of good use. of pictures take a look at Maribel_310 profile. As has been said, guys are visual. Add some explicit pictures having fun, take some pics wearing sexy lingerie, give a welcoming smile. Also keep in mind that guys check out reviews in the men's clubs and/or will reach out to guys in your network. It doesn't take but one or two bad/mediocre reviews to derail your success. Its been my long experience that when a lady is friendly and genuinely enjoys what she is doing, along with a great menu and reasonable HX rates, then she can do quite well for herself. Word gets around.
CleanStreet
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Jul 29 2026 11:46PM     link to this

Not everyone logs and go straight to classifieds. One of my first stops is the photos link, by uploading pics with some regularity it is a good spot to market to those that may not be subscribed yet.
blackmask
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Jul 30 2026 05:35AM     link to this

Could be the locations you’re posting your classifieds vs where you’re actually advertising. Could be generating some confusion
prufrock10
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Jul 30 2026 11:58AM     link to this

Well, I think 31 helpful comments with zero response from OP paints all the picture I need here ...
xmn9669
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Jul 30 2026 11:06PM     link to this

Yea thats been a growing trend around here lately. Ppl post for 'help' then they just dont follow up and/or acknowledge the other comments on said posts.

The problem is that she (as well as a lot of them) carry 'main character energy', when they simply arent. Once they swallow that pill, then hopefully they find more success.

-X-™
Ginagirlfriend
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Jul 31 2026 07:26PM     link to this

Excellent question because this happens to me all day. Very annoying. I went back to not accepting new clients because it was putting me in a bad mood for the good guys.
RandyMantooth
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Jul 31 2026 07:49PM     link to this

Pro Tips:
  1. When you create a blog, or add a comment to one, go back to it and click on the Subscribe button at the top. As people add comments, your Subscriptions tab at the top of HX will turn red and you can go to the Blogs sub-tab to see when the last comment was on each blog you're subscribed to.
  2. When you post a blog, particularly one where you are asking for advice, try to log back on within a few days to see responses.
  3. Engage the audience by responding to specific helpful comments. Be sure to also ignore the trolling comments.
  4. You should also check your Mail inbox, as some people might think you are serious about asking for advice and will send a PM directly to you instead of posting in your blog. Be sure to respond to them, even with a quick "thanks".
  5. Remember that part of being a member of a community is participation.
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