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No not experiencing that. Stand firm on ir rates
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Your rates are your rates. When I get a rate that I can't afford or I don't think the services offered fornthe rate I generally make a note and move on. This is a hobby, one that people participate in when they can.
I've never tried to negotiate a lower rate. I find it to be tacky, others see it as a business deal.
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Because you're new people will try to test your boundaries
Do not allow it!
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Do not let them do that to you. It's like having a new puppy. You gotta house train them and when they piddle on the carpet you gotta rub their nose in it, smack them on the bottom and tell them No!! That's not what we do up in this house. No sir! You are the boss. You make the rules. They don't like it try professionally training.
I'm sorry this happened to you. I'll repeat what JM said. It's cause you're new and that are testing your boundaries.
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"men out here think they can decide what they wanna donate "
Yes men can, but you determine what you're willing to accept. I don't haggle personally.
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Some people always bargain and can’t help themselves. There is a well known client who does this constantly and whatever but I find it hilariously tacky. Now if you think negotiation is possible then there are ways to do it gracefully but when it becomes a habit then word gets around.
End of day you are free to offer your rates and terms. Client is free to pay what he feels you are worth. Only when the two intersect does a transaction happen. That’s the market.
There are some guys who will balk at paying a penny more than 200 HH and I hear gripes about 20 more. Whatever. Pass on those guys if it bothers you.
On the other hand sometimes negotiating works in your favor. Everything has context.
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lol lol
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Here is an example where negotiating might not be bad. A girl needs money now and is in dire straits (e.g. needs to come up with $100+ NOW because she is being kicked out of her hotel for non payment). In that case don’t expect to not be giving a discount to the guy bailing you out.
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or if it happens a lot, maybe its your rates are out of line with expectations.
Just looking at the flip side. Both sides have a choice, I never saw the good in getting offended, just say thanks but no.
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If a girl needs the money badly she will offer specials
Dont haggle people its tacky. If you cant afford the Lexus, maybe try a fiat .... if you cant afford a fiat , get a scooter... pretty much there is something for everyone . If your boss pulled you into his office and tried to negotiate your pay, how would you feel about that ?
There are also clubs that promote ladies who currently have specials due to needing money fast .. look into those instead. Doesnt hurt to be respectful
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I've never regretted being respectful.
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"maybe its your rates are out of line with expectations"
this is the kind of comment that can really fuck with a girls self worth
"expectations" are very different on hx than anywhere else
you don't have to talk about "the market" or "the going rate"
if its its too much for you, then its out of line with YOUR expectations
just say that.
anything more is just rude.
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Yes and no. If you are easily offended by numbers and worth here in dollars then don’t do this. I am not saying this to be a dick. It’s just say if you get offended by someone saying you aren’t worth it and it ruins your day don’t do this. Because it will happen and unfortunately your looks are part of what we are willing to pay.
We can all be gracious but in the end if someone thinks you aren’t worth it then move on. Don’t empower them to upset you.
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But why be an asshole and tell people what you think that they're worth lol
Not about having thick skin, it's about being kind . The thing is, if you really didn't like that person's looks why reach out in the first place. So that lets me know that men are seeking out women that they don't think are that attractive so they can get lower rates
If I told you that you were worthless because you have to pay to see women, use pills to get hard, and have long testicles id be the bad person
Point is.. why be mean? Say "ok thank you" and move along but do not dismiss bad behavior by saying "just have thick skin"
We are all human beings not robots
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Costs nothing and takes no effort to be kind
And really you dont even have to be kind. Most guys simply dont respond if they dont like my rates and thats ok with me. You can easily just not reply as well
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"So I am just wondering if all you ladies out there experience the same situation as I have been experiencing lately". Ok, it appears that you have been in this community for about 24 hrs. So when you say lately are you referring to HX members? Or are you referring to other communities you may be a member of.? Just curious. In this community, IMHO, you will find that about 50% of the guys who contact you will "negotiate" with you in some way, shape or form. You have already received some excellent advise from some very trusted ladies in this community. You would be wise to follow their words of wisdom.
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I find it mind boggling...
If a lady sends back 600 an hour and just about zero service level,
and the guy chooses not to respond = the lady gets offended !
And if the guy tries to negotiate = he's labeled a cheapskate and is insulting the " worth " !
Worth = the perceived value for the dollars spent = very subjective and everyone will have different opinions.
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^^^ you are wise beyond your years 
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No one is saying this is what you are worth. If you say that then you are an asshole. But remember this is a transaction based on perceived value. And that perceived value is based largely on appearance. Otherwise why post pics? Just base it on a network and level.
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I never haggle on the donation. If it is above my budget, I move on. There are plenty here at all donation ranges.
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Conversation like this make me just go walk in and get a nice massage and relax. No jumping through hoops.
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perceived value is just that... perception..
kinda weird to go out of your way to message someone and be like "hey I want to see you but you dont look as good as I am willing to pay so lower your rates for me even though there are 5000 other girls that I could reach out to" lol
Pics are posted, if you dont like how someone looks why reach out anyways
I mean you can always go and meet girls in person and see how that goes.... or just go and fuck your wife but dont be mean to people for no reason
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Why even be on this site if youre so worried about body counts?? none of this even makes sense at this point
actually... I totally forgot about that damn 54%... darn.... I just dont understand the point of being mean to people just because you dont like something about them
Wonder if i can use that entitlement at Lexus and see if they'll discount a car for me
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If the rate is not market appropriate, just say no and move on.
If a girl wants 300+ and is in a 2 star hotel in a bad hood with a parking lot full of weirdos, a ratchet room with a busted up bed and shower with towels from the 90s, it is a pass regardless of her looks and service.
Why, because there are options at that rate for girls at a nice condo/hotel in a safe hood with a good bed and spacious bedroom with a clean comfortable shower including nice towels, mouthwash, etc.
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Just highlighting that OP has been active a total of one day.
My point was that if (in one day) she is seeing constant negotiations, then something is off.
If this is a livelihood and necessity, then a re-evaluation isn't such bad advice.
June darlin, the cat may be out of the bag with your explicit thoughts on how not to be mean above, not sure that took the direction intended, but it was a fun read.
I'm not a fan of these thread$ but they are always a good mix of opinions and that's the point.
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The only thing I agree on is the numerous TOS violations.
Why not remember, not to type that shit.
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^^^ been having fun with it knowing it wont be up long.
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I have what I think is a simple answer to this question. A friend of mine usually answers inquiries with, "What do you have for me?"
Perhaps those not regulars of this site are used to being asked that question. I think it is innocent and not necessarily coming from a bad place.
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Been on HX since about 2017 and I have this issue from time to time. I have noticed that HX'ers do tend to be on the more "economical side". The trade off, in my opinion is that it's less work because the screening process is eliminated.
Stick to what you feel comfortable with, I wouldn't let anyone persuade me to lower my standards. Once you go down, everyone will expect the same treatment.
That also pertains to your menu as well. There are certain people (not going to mention any names), that lie and tell you that all the girls are doing this and that and if I don't open my menu and put my health at risk, then I won't get any connections.
Hope this helps.
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Big Joe sounds kinda like a dick.
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Let the market decide. That’s all I can say. Everyone should stick to his or her terms. When the two intersect, something happens. If not then it’s just uncountered bids and offers.
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Price should be determined before the job is commenced.
That being said, you determine your ASK price. If customers come along and pay that price, then it's the market rate. But in reality, you set the ASK price, but buyers, after shopping or negotiations, set the BUY IT price. Or no deal.
But the idea that a seller sets the sale price is flawed. The sale price is always set by the buyer. Or there' no sale.
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Lmfao SmartK9 please dont start Im already sad about my chick fil a hahaha
Idk maybe my perspective is flawed because i lack that experience but regardless just be kind and move along
We should all be having fun!
I think everyone in this blog should get naked and hug it out
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Whoops lol my bad i just saw DR's comment
Hahaha
*pulls out Homer Simpson backing into a tree meme*
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Ur a class act, joe.
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Seems like u r offended that guys are asking for a lower rate
Ultimately u decide yes or no
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Mwah
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