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What’s Your Perfect Guy?
Oct 6 2026 01:38PM more by Addie
Tags: Orange County, Leisure (All tags)

What’s Your Perfect Guy?

Everyone has a different idea of the “perfect guy,” so I thought this would be a fun topic to open up for conversation.

For me, it starts with someone who is clean, respectful, and considerate of my time, comfort level, and boundaries. I appreciate someone who is friendly and easy to talk to, someone who communicates what he likes while also being able to listen and read the room.

I really value a man who doesn’t pressure you or make you feel rushed. Someone who is willing to go the extra mile to make sure you feel comfortable, relaxed, and respected stands out to me.


Generosity matters too, but not only in a financial sense. I like someone who gives freely, whether that’s kindness, appreciation, attention, or effort, without making it feel transactional or like something is being taken from him. There should be a sense of mutual appreciation and good energy.

For me, the best connections are with people who make you feel safe enough to be yourself, communicate openly, and actually enjoy the time you’re spending together.
I’m so attracted to someone who is authentic, kind, and a little hard to get.

So now I’m curious: What makes someone your perfect guy? Is it his personality? Manners? Confidence? Communication? Generosity? Sense of humor? Something else entirely?

I’d love to hear what everyone thinks.
      
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Oct 6 2026 01:58PM     link to this

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Oct 6 2026 04:40PM     link to this

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jazz51
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Oct 6 2026 04:41PM     link to this

I notice the ladies are not chiming in.....
HelenaUlinova
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Oct 6 2026 06:34PM     link to this

The kind who tips & asks before he spits in my mouth or pulls my hair.
nikkybold
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Oct 6 2026 08:06PM     link to this

Helena, you really don't ask for much, do you?
DelilahRose
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Oct 6 2026 08:30PM     link to this

A confident man
Smells good
Quick wit who can make me laugh

I actually have no clue but those 3 matter to me
a310guy
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Oct 6 2026 08:31PM     link to this

Dr , a natural smell.. or like a cologne
DelilahRose
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Oct 6 2026 08:34PM     link to this

Cologne, no cheap shit either
Theoneandonly111
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Oct 6 2026 09:13PM     link to this

It is interesting to see all the different responses, preferences, and personality types! There is someone for everyone!
AppleBottom
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Oct 7 2026 12:18AM     link to this

He doesn't exist. That's why.
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Oct 7 2026 12:21AM     link to this

AB you broke my 💔💔
tbysstudios
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Oct 7 2026 09:46AM     link to this

I love men who are emotionally mature and stable.

I love successful men who are ambitious but retain humility.

I love to laugh so a sense of humor or at least an ability to laugh a lot, even in the hard times.

I love money. Who doesn't. Lol. That is a given. Men with money.

I love men who understand the complexity of a woman and can hold space for the differences we have.

I love men who like to be taken care of by a hyper feminine woman and can both let a woman do that and appreciate the work it takes to care for others.

I love men who are kinky but not disrespectful or sadistic.

I love men who love and can care for animals and others.

I love men who are intelligent but not arrogant.

Please do not be that messy. But not neurotic on cleaning either. Happy medium there. Lol.

And most of all, I am always looking for a best friend type.

I do not think perfect exists or that I even want that (what a thing to live up to haha), but I definitely have a rather long list of things I look for and appreciate about the opposite sex.

DizzyDame
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Oct 7 2026 10:40AM     link to this

In real life? I want someone who listens, protects me, stays calm when life gets chaotic, and knows when to stand their ground without turning everything into a shouting match.

Funny, witty, emotionally secure, and straightforward, no guessing games, passive aggression, or unnecessary interrogations. Someone who just gets me… even when I’m sighing instead of speaking.

Someone who gives and receives gifts, takes care of me when I’m sick, and lets me return the favor. Not bossy, but capable of taking the lead with patience and care when needed.

Brave, but not recklessly daring. Also there's bonus points for a few one handed push ups and knowing your own blood type.

Dresses well, knows how to put together a fit, can be a little flashy when we need to be without being egotistical, and can match my mysterious vibe with effortless cool.

Treats the richest person in the room and the poorest person in the room with the exact same respect. Lets me sleep in, holds me close, doesn’t rush me, doesn’t overly question me, and can actually dance with me.

Basically… secure, funny, capable, affectionate, but not smothering. It's confident not arrogant and effortlessly cool. Emotionally intelligent with good clothes and decent dance moves. IDK... must have a cute face though. Js. I love a good face. But that isn't the most important thing.
Someone who truly loves me, myself and i while still loving themselves as well and allows me to love them too.

Also! Someone who will make sure i drive a white sting ray corvette and makes sure the insurance gets paid because i suck at that. 😁

Addie
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Oct 7 2026 12:27PM     link to this

I actually love hearing that so many of the things that make a guy attractive have more to do with his personality and how he treats himself and others. We’ve all met someone who’s really good-looking, and then they open their mouth and suddenly… not so much 😂. And then there are people you might not notice right away, but once you talk to them, their personality completely changes how you see them. You really never know who might surprise you or completely knock you off your feet. It makes me want to be more open to genuine connections instead of judging someone off the first impression. I just wish there were more genuine people out there with all these qualities us girls seem to appreciate.
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Oct 7 2026 12:43PM     link to this

DR
Blue de Chanel will work ?

I feel so attractive when I have it on me 😁
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Oct 7 2026 03:36PM     link to this

Ladies, if you’re afraid to admit it on the blog you can just PM me that I’m one of your favorites. 😅
jazz51
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Oct 7 2026 03:45PM     link to this

Thank you, ladies. It is great to hear what you might be looking for in a partner.
dznutzgg
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Oct 7 2026 05:00PM     link to this

All this time I've been a male chauvinist. Here I thought you all wanted a guy who shows up on time, showered, generous early tipper, not order any off menu items, and mindful of your time.
Addie
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Oct 7 2026 05:19PM     link to this

Ilove2lick —> See, funny AND confident. Somebody was paying attention 😂
remo_williams
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Oct 7 2026 05:55PM     link to this

What dznutzgg said.
db7c
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Oct 7 2026 06:37PM     link to this

Are we talking about 1 hour dates? Because men can accommodate all these requests for 1 hour.
Addie
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Oct 7 2026 06:43PM     link to this

😂 Are you guys okay? I said what I find attractive, I didn’t assign anybody homework.
Addie
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Oct 7 2026 06:45PM     link to this

Also, nobody said ‘perfect client’ 😂 We were talking about what we find attractive in men. Not everything is about you guys.
AppleBottom
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Oct 7 2026 06:46PM     link to this

Tipper?! Where are those men? I have only been tipped twice, EVER! *cries*
Addie
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Oct 7 2026 06:52PM     link to this

Oh nooo AppleBottom 😭😂 I feel you girl! There’s something extra nice about someone being generous without you even having to ask. I’m all for advocating for yourself and saying what you like, but then again, having to ask kinda takes away from the surprise 😂
AppleBottom
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Oct 7 2026 06:58PM     link to this

Oh, I could never ask for one. I honestly didn’t realize it was a normal-ish thing. Clearly, I’m not earning or deserving of tips and that makes me a sad. I genuinely enjoy pleasing, so it’s kind of a drag to know I'm doing something wrong.
Addie
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Oct 7 2026 07:10PM     link to this

We have got to start another blog about this
June.Moon
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Oct 7 2026 07:45PM     link to this

Imperfect, attentive, truthful, caring, generous, emotionally intelligent, understanding, patient, and freaky. When together the vibes flow effortlessly, the energy is intense even outside of sex, and the conversations are endless.
moneytrain
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Oct 7 2026 07:50PM     link to this

I think I.can check off most of those boxes 😂 ok some
Addie
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Oct 7 2026 07:58PM     link to this

moneytrain, obviously
moneytrain
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Oct 7 2026 08:20PM     link to this

Addie 😍🥰
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Oct 8 2026 12:42AM     link to this

Addie, I am confident I know what I’m doing with my 😛.

And I also make sure the woman I’m with is okay. And then I continue.
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