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It all depends on the timing and the tone. Majority of the time the right words need to be used. But it always makes them more upset
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NEVER
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Never. it always makes them more upset.
Ever win an argument with a women with Logic ?
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I have learned never to say that and I used to say it all the time...Last time I said it I was told: "Dont tell me to calm down!" That did it!
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Doctor- Calm down David, it may be your first surgery but it's just a minor operation.
Patient- I'm not David.
Doctor- I am.
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Did it work for you Sydney? Or for whomever was telling you that?
I know it’s never been effective in my experience
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'What is the result of telling someone upset to calm down? Does it ever work?'
What is the result of telling someone upset to shut the fuck up? Does it ever work? -----> Yes.
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From life experience, when someone's upset, saying "calm down" or "relax" is just gasoline to the flames lol.
Just listen and give positive acknowledgements until said person has calmed down before anything else.
Everybody needs to vent some time 
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Usually not, but it depends on how one approaches it. If the intent is just to get the person to stop making a scene, or getting across that they're upset about something they shouldn't be upset about, it'll never work. If it's coming from the intent of helping the person deal with the moment, said calmly with a lot of other supporting sentiments, then it can work. What I mean is there's a big difference between, "Oh calm down." And something more like "Okay, stay calm, breathe, I'm here, you're okay. Here let's sit down. Okay, breathe deep, tell me what's going on..." etc. It's all about the intention of the person doing the calming and whether they can relay that their intentions are good. The opposite is someone who just wants someone to calm down because it's making THEM uncomfortable. People know BS vs Sincerity.
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Well said WanderBoy.
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Haha no petite.
It makes me so furious to hear it especially when I feel like I’m acting calmly already.
I don’t dare tell someone to calm down.
I usually ask “are you ok”. Which works only sometimes.
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If I hear someone asking me to calm down, I always want to do the Chris Tucker in "Rush Hour 2" in the casino scene
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