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Read the writings of Elonaires on FB. He is about Legacy relationships.
Perhaps if he feels the kind of love he's looks for that fills his security needs. Maybe he's ok then.
But what if one day you met someone that fills your emotional needs more so. Then what. great confusion ensues.
Since it was mentioned about toxic, I'd suggest finding out what your Numerology blueprint has to say. thenumberslady.com
Every day we who have an so and log on here is committing an overt act against the other.
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If you’re the only one bringing in money it sounds like he is using you.
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Hi. I believe if you read your own message back several times you will have your answer.
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i dont think it automatically means hes taking advantage, especially if hes sharing responsibilities at home.
think about traditional relationships, one works the other takes care of the house
just because youre a lady doesn't mean you should feel bad about supporting someone while theyre in a transition period or maybe youre just happy regardless
as far as love goes - being in a relationship and loving someone doesn't mean they own you
its possible to love you AND let you live your life your way. it may be difficult for some, impossible for others... but not for everyone
as long as youre happy and healthy dont worry so much and enjoy what youve got!
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oh boy
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You’re getting fucked
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This boyfriend that you have, that you support. Is he disabled and can not work? (please say yes) Otherwise, what's wrong with the guy that he can't bring income into the shared home?
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Some things are better off kept personal IMHO your BF sounds like a douchebag !!
Se la vie... Good luck
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Per your profile
HEROS
Any Smart, Independent, Confident, Driven Women who know how to take care of themselves!!
Lose the anchor that's dragging you down, and be your own HERO.
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Good grief, lady. Please stop supporting weak men.
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separate HX life and relations from civvy life.
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Interesting blog. You’re obviously feeling enough something to post this.
You’ll get a bunch of opinions but none of us are in your shoes. However sometimes that look from the outside actually gives lots of clarity, especially after 10 years.
Setting aside all the other dynamics in your relationship, unless he’s disabled or something it simply doesn’t seem fair that you’re doing it all. I see your posts in the early morning trying to keep your room. That doesn’t seem right to me.
Just an opinion. 🙂. Best of luck.
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I think there’s a limit to how close you can get if you are fucking other guys. Doesn’t mean there can’t be a relationship but it can never be as close as it could be if you were not working.
If it works it works but if I decided I wanted to have a girlfriend then this would need to end.
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Last time I read a blog from u , u broke up with a boyfriend , is this the same boyfriend from before. Or u got back together ?
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As weird as this may seem, this relationship probably 'works' because they're both getting something they desperately need out of it.
She gets whatever emotional support and comforting she needs to feel 'normal' (whatever that means anymore) and he gets rent-free living and gets to love of someone else's dime.
Is this a working recipe if they want to take it to the next level or to raise a family? Probably not. But if they're both fulfilling some need, maybe it works for them (for now).
It's not forward planning, but to each his own.
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this does make me curious, can you working girls actually have a relationship while doing this kind of work? seems most girls dont really even think about customers after they leave?
if you do happen to be in a serious relationship while doing this, cherish it, its special, most normal men would not be happy with it
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Well I've never had an issue with my partner and the hobby. I clearly don't talk about my business to him. It's like a job and we move on. But we re kinky we love playing with girls as well, like we go to the strip club and we find who we like ask her and if she's down we enjoy her. But that's just us.Not everyone is the same.
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Might help if you get clean (sober)
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I've done this before. It's possible that the man starts getting errant thoughts that it's okay to cheat because of what you're doing anyways. But it's also possible that the escort girlfriend gets a good time from a client and doesn't feel she needs to put the effort back home because she got hers.
I do think it's possible to love in this situation, provided the man is mature enough and the woman puts in the effort to make sure her man is taken care of and also realize that he's not just another sugar daddy to spend off of.
While it might be hard for the man to separate his girlfriend's romantic relationships from her business ones, it's also hard for the woman herself to draw a hard line between the two. Some day you will choose between whether to spend time with the bf, but daddy will buy you a bag if you spend time with him instead. Or you might think the bf never buys you anything expensive so he must be using you, but really you're using him for the emotional comfort. Or he might be using you because he doesn't actually care about you, he just finds excitement from the idea of easy sex. It can happen from both sides.
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Dont do it.. things get sticky then all around messy
My dream is to get married, own a home, have 3 sums with my husband, and travel the world but I would absolutely not want to do this to maintain a truthful relationship.
the trust issues will always linger. then its always that fine like of can he see other women because of what you do. Humans naturally get jealous. You also want to make sure that your friends feel safe when visiting you and not wondering if some guy is hanging around.
I say the results may vary but just be mindful in the long run. Only you know your partner
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I've read some of your past blogs & in the past 5 months you've forgotten to pay your phone bill & only had until noon to pay your rent.
Do you have ADHD? How hard is it to remember expenses that're due every month around the same time?
It seems you're not making enough money to keep afloat. I'm assuming you're living with your boyfriend. If you were living separately, you could save on the rent & then see if the relationship survives (that might answer the question of it he's just leeching off you & he'd now have to find a job too).
Or maybe you need to find another line of work.
I agree with others that it's hard to have a deep relationship (i.e., someone you'd marry) if you're constantly having sex with other partners. I know there are some HX women who're married so it works for them, but it's hard for me to imagine it'd be the kind of traditional love I'd expect from my spouse.
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Do you let you BF play with your doubles partner ?
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Post like these are reasons why BF and GF mean absolutely nothing. Lady you are effectively single. This guy doesn't care about what you do because he isn't married to you and you are simply a means to an end.
Go get you a therapist and get some help. People get into these situationships and really think are in some meaningful relationship. Shit is crazy
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A public forum for discussing your personal life.
Interesting.
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Does your boyfriend have other girlfriends that give him money as well?
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I am scared to date because of this reason.
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You are describing a relationship with a parasite
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My girlfriend is a working girl and I play. Sometimes we play together with others and sex parties as well. That is partly why it work for us. We are both in the game. However, most importantly, it works because we truly believe Love & Sex are two very different things; and should never be linked. Those that can truly think this way make it work. Otherwise it won't work in the long run.
I will also say if you are the only income maker, it might answer why he tolerates your working for so long and also why he does not confront you about it.
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Just knowing you had a long-term relationship, makes me wanna see you now . 
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Littlemissalice hit it on the nose.
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I don't know about anyone else but every single time I've met a girl on HX who has a boyfriend she's supporting him and paying the bills.%100.
I wonder how the guys get in that situation, I would still want to work. It seems to me like the "boyfriends" are just lazy and have no problem with their :"girlfriend" working so they don't have to. I bring this up because it has been the case every single time. Some stalk the girl pretty hard if they try and get away. I would be able to have a girlfriend who works like this, it would be more of a good friendship. If I ended up loving her I would want to always be the one having sex with her and would't hang out and watch the price is right everyday while she worked. My experience doesn't mean that's how it is always but I've not seen %100 ever except this type relationship. For me, some of the best friendships I've had with women are the one's on HX. There's no unclear expectations and there's no jealousy or hurt feelings or bullshit and you can just honestly speak your mind without worry of hiding anything or making up stories like oh, the boat won't start and I'm stuck on Catalina while someone else is with me. Instead it's like hey get over here the sun is shining, the fish are biting and there's a wine and music festival going on. When I was married my wife hated the boat like a mistress and acted like she caught me fooling around with someone when she would come out of the blue and catch me working on the boat. I couldn't believe it and knew "This isn't going to work."
Whatever floats your boat I guess is what I'm saying!
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I think you're in an abusive relationship, he's abusing you financially and emotionally I think you're in an toxic relationship maybe because he makes you feel safe it doesn't means that he loves you.
If he has been having a roof over his head, food and sex just for being by your side I'm so but he's a lazy creep.
Go and see someone to help you with your emotional life.
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It truly depends in my opinion. Everyone is different and everyone has different expectations and preferences. I think in certain situations it could be acceptable — like in a financial emergency or something. It could make a guy overly insecure though and will lead to more problems. Take it from someone who knows from experience. What I don’t like is that you’re taking care of him financially, and for the most part, a man takes care of a woman. Every relationship has different dynamics though. So….What could also happen is that even if you quit this line of work… trust issues might be inevitable. . He might constantly accuse you of seeing clients and become crazy controlling and ultimately —much worse. On the other hand, maybe it’s something you guys can talk about and understand limits if any and communication needs to be a priority. .. if it goes that way, that’s awesome and could lead to more exploring of your sexual relationship and bring a spice to your life. It just really depends. Either way he should be helping in some type of way. He’s a
Man…
Good luck.
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Also, an important question is why you’re with a guy and still having to work? Did he lose his job or does he not have a job because he’s lazy and has excuses? and has your relationship always been like this … supporting both of you guys? Or like is he medically unable to work or something? Does he have a career ?? Or just in between jobs. Temporary displacement is ok but
I’d like to think if a female starts dating someone and up until dating that person, the females supported herself doing this… and the man expects her to stop doing this….. he should have a freaking job so he can support her. At least til she gets back to a “normal job”. Otherwise I don’t think he has a say unless he’s financially taking care of her. Not just barely doing the minimum either and like ….barely able to scrape by month after month. It gets to a point where you gotta move on with your life and make your own moves regardless. There’s no excuse why a man shouldn’t take care of his woman if he has the ABILITY to do so. If he does have the ability to, and is CHOOSING not to take care of her cuz (enter in 1 of the 25 excuses he has) m…then it’s just lazypieceofshit syndrome.
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Well this is a new kind of read in RA 😩. Can we get more of these 😲 🤣
I can’t relate, but also I don’t feel alone 🤳
Fr tho- I 🏃♀️ dunno 🏃♀️ is my best advice
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whos ✍️ Tyrone
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thanks for the compliment but i lied on my profile like everyone else 👵
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I’m actually almost FIFTY
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