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Because we are incredibly insecure about our little dicks and our lack of sexual skills.
That's what I heard from a friend of mine.
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I'm the friend
We polka together
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Men SHOULD feel threatened by it. It should be no different than asking if he's ok with his girlfriend having another boyfriend on the side.
This way of thinking minimizes homo relationships and sends a message that they aren't something to be taken seriously.
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Not in the least bit..... bothered or insecure
Not at all...... bothered or insecure
My request is please share the intimacy & love with me.
Good night
Regards
Rory
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Personally no.
It's not a direct competition like with another male. Either she wants to be with a girl or guy
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One of my Exs long ago used to leave her Gf in bed with me when she had to go to an early class, I got to play with her all the time, then they got in to a fight over some other girl and that was the end of that..College girls are the most adventurous..
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My wife could use a girlfriend for sure!
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who has the time.
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When I think about that scenario, it actually doesn't bother me. It might be a sign that jealousy only applies to same-sex, at least for me. Still, I'd rather not.
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Seems like the house would get cleaned twice as fast
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@Dakine_grrl, so spot on !!!
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There is nothing permanent about that kind of situation. If issues arise from 2 about who loves/likes the other more, imagine with three!? Yep...those things arise if there are feeling involved and there are always feeling involved.
I had a gf in college who had a gf. It was never serious between us so she had her side girl, as long as there was no additional sausage in the pot. Then my girl needed a place to stay and asked if she could move in. Her girl would come over and eventually the tree of us played together until I started to like the new girl more and the whole thing blew up.
Best to keep things separate if you want to keep things going.
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It was the only way for me to get rid of her, my ex. She enjoys eating pie as much as i do
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As always when my girlfriend pulls that bullshit.
I give both of them a serious tongue lashing.
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@Dakine_grrl- this way of thinking makes you feel that it minimizes “homo” relationships…
In my opinion, It is different tho…different anatomy, different energy, different experience. That doesn’t make it any less “serious” of a relationship. Majority of the time you’re not going to compare yourself to the opposite sex. IF…I were an insecure individual, I’d be more insecure for my girl to have another woman…because shit what am I doing wrong?! Lmao but a man…for sure won’t see me insecure over a man or comparing myself to one…different parts, different energy…I get that. My question was geared towards the men because there aren’t a lot of lesbians on here 😂
But since we’re all here… same question for the women…
Would it make you feel insecure if your girl had a boyfriend?
Here’s another…gay men…
Would it make you feel insecure if your boyfriend wanted a girlfriend?
For the the record…I wouldn’t give a damn…I’m not a jealous woman. Happy wife, happy life 🥰
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I had a girlfriend when I was married. What a mess! The jealousy got out of control. I wanted him, He wanted her, she wanted me. Everyone was jealous. He started treating me like competition. It lasted about a year. I'll never do that again.
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IDGAF.
My self-confidence is very high. I am a compelling person to be with and rarely do I feel any kind of jealousy or feel threatened in any manner.
If my partner does not see or respect that, it's cool, we not meant to be anymore. As Beyonce says, I can find another you in a minute. And while not ideal, I love the spark of new relationship and dating, so don't try me, lol!
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I saw a lady who was only on HX for a blip when I first started here. During our time together it turned out she was a lesbian. No biggie.
Then she said she was in a committed relationship. Again, not a big deal, lots of people on HX are.
But when she said she was hiding what she was doing on HX from her wife, I felt nauseous and ended the date early.
As someone who had recently been on the other end of that equation I promised myself I would never be the other person in a deceitfully adulterous situation, even if it was a purely professional setting. Not sure if I would still react the same way, but at the time my wounds were pretty fresh and I was physically ill by the thought of it.
That said, back to D's question... my thoughts are as long as it is open communication and we are all on the same page and have set boundaries and safe words that must be abided by, it's all good. If she wants to step out with another lady, as long as she is open about it and we are on the same page, idgaf. If they want to make it a group thing, that might be cool too.
vice-versa, If I was to be in a relationship with someone again, I hope I would be healthy enough to either cut off this part of my life entirely, or let them know about it and have a conversation about what our boundaries will be, would it only be threesomes, or whatever. I would never do this behind the back of someone I care about.
Maybe I'm naive, but I don't ever want to put unneeded guilt on my own shoulders by gaslighting my partner.
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It’s my way or the highway!
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I’ve had many three ways with my girls in the past. Always a blast. 😎
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