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I understand it may not be what you used to have. I am in a similar situation (cried in many a blogs on here) but have been able to find purpose in shifting my perspective. I slept in a U-Haul for 65 days ( that was only 20 days ago) and am now for the first time sleeping in a bed (hotel) with a fridge, etc. it’s quite the luxury. I have a mini fridge now 😊 ( before I could only afford either $5 at McDonald’s daily or the gas in U-Haul to shower at the gym) . My point being, if you can be a little bit more flexible and tryyyyy to see some positivity your reality may feel less impactful on your mental health. Mind you after a few ads, now I can afford the U-Haul as a car, a room, and some fanciful meals every now and then. Mind you, this can all be stripped away. Every week, I pray someone will visit- but I also understand I still have the U-Haul and it was livable- and an air matress wasn’t all that bad- in fact it taught me a lot about humanity- and I couldn’t have paid for that full time experience it created for my mental health.
I hate when others compare their stories, but my wish for you is to see beauty in the now. Not giving up on yourself is a testament to your grit and resilience. And sometimes it feels good knowing you had to be creative to make ends meet.
I dunno that’s just me. But I’ve had it all MANY times, and this last time, truly has been healing my soul for the next stage in my life whatever that may be.
Hang in there- be creative, find your joy and try and see the positive, if you want to
♥️- Sonya
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I hope you receive your blessings and realize your aspirations. I know that it’s nearly impossible to think about the future when you’re just trying to survive the present day. Something about being in survival mode, impedes logic. Having experienced survival mode, I can honestly say it’s a very emotional experience. I thought the problem was purely financial, but it wasn’t. It usually never is. It was something else entirely. I now know what my problems were (it’s not complicated) everyone has them but they are different for everyone . I’ resolved mine, But it is a work in progress and I do the work. Prayers for your blessings
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oops I forgot- the highlight of the U-Haul story was to tell you it’s only $19.99 a day! If you need to drive locally that is your best bet, and will keep your luggage/ room more organized to have it stored in the van. I like to use it kind of like an office /closet space now. Literally feels like a walk in closet ( who knew id have this perspective had I not lived in the van)
Everyday im told my story needs to get picked up by The Times🤣
Embracing the slums has been a fun new identity, I feel like Erin Brokovich- I feel like I’m living an actual art piece from a gallery . Like the ones that look like trash but the artist does some weird dance to paint the portrait and all of a sudden it sells for 12 million dollars. Ya that’s me. That’s this situation.
Kinda crazy, kinda cool, kinda sad, kinda hot, kinda me
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Sonya7
I can't send messages but I can read them. I have your # from a few years ago is it still active.
Text me if you still have mine.
Want to hang and catch up.
Always Boboloo
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new life new number you need mailll
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I wish Both of you Beautiful Ladies the Best!!
I give U girls Props for sharing your stories 
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thank you, sincerely 🌟 to the moooooon guys 🕺
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You gals are young now and life will get better. Many years later with college degrees completed and home psid off in NC life is good. Have a two grt careers on top of my side gigs and can travel when I want with onr of my careers remote. When I come bsck to Diego or LA lets grab lunch as I may have some ideas for y"all! I really need some extra new gal friends too!
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Katiebell with your looks you could end up marrying the next Jeff Bezos or Semator Menedez. Semator Mendez wife who is like in her 50s never worked a day in her metvedes life. Just stay out of trouble and avoid corrupt politicians tho. The Menedez thing was a small joke as he id going away for quite a while. You will get college finished if you keep pushing thru. Someone special hped me finish my first degree and another person motivated me to buy a home..keep pushing thru. The struggles are real but you will make it!
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Hi Sonya7,
Sorry to hear about your situation I've had a few friends go thru the same thing in the past 5 years.
I have your # from 2022.
I don't come on HX that much anymore and they made it a pain to get points.
Hang in there and maybe someday are paths will cross again.
XOXOXO
Boboloo
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One of part time jobs is in nursing. Try cna work as the certs in CA are easier to get I hear..3 shifts a day anf if you get a homd health aid gig you can do your homework as I did mines constantly on downtime! You have to be clean tho with stellar background checks!
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Unlocked 3 days of mail for ya don’t go to crazy
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Thanks Sonya7 only for you!!!
XOXOXO
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I wish both you ladies the best of luck in all your venture!
@Kaitebelle. You are doing great continuing your educations through your struggles. I know when I am on the road I really miss being able to cook a Home Cooked Meal. What do you like I would be happy to bring you a Home Cooked Meal to you.
@sonya7 You are doing amazing as well looking the positive (using the van as office/closet).
I am sure you have probably heard this before, but challenges build Character. It will help to appreciate everything you have worked for and those that have been a positive influence for you event more.
If I can be off assistance to either of you STRONG ladies, please let me know!
-DRPW
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What I gathered from reading this blog is you women are strong and amazing!
Life has really been life-ing. And no matter the obstacles you are prevailing and making the best of it.
I lost my place in the beginning of December too. So I am just praying for the most amazing year yet!
Proud of you ladies! Keep doing the damn thing!
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Yasssss, I just skip around town waiting for a new challenge these days and whisper to myself well guess we are just building morrrre character 🤣
Cuz after this im goin from a 10 to a 77 🤣
Xoxo
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Sonya you are amazing 😘
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more bummed Jeff Bezos wouldn’t bat an eyelash at me tho
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Sonya you just need to come in my hood of North Cakalackie or Hburg PA! You will never be board! Even my seasoned thick tail has lots of friends here in the southeast! I did well in Cali when I lived in San Clemente and San Diego. Life took me to the Southeast and I love it. Cali I come to see fam and longtime friends.
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RE: The Car-Free Commute
I went to college in the Bay Area and never needed transportation to get around since I live on campus dorm in and then renting out close by. I learn how to use the BART and, on my weekends, I would get on the train and go as far as it would take me to explore all of the Bay Area.
My first semester in college, I met a Vietnamese guy from San Diego. He actually would drive from San Diego because he had an apartment with parking where he lived. We became good friends (up until today) and he offered to always drive me back at the end of each semester and pick me up at the beginning of each. As a gesture of my appreciation for doing so, I offer to grade all his English term papers. His English (mostly writing) was not great, and I could help because he asked me.
Once I graduated, took three months off and then started looking for work. After several interviews I landed a job in Santa Monica, but back then I lived in the Los Feliz area of L.A. and had no car. So, my only option was to take the bus. Each morning, I would take three bus lines to get TO and FROM work. Work was from 8:30am - 5:30pm which meant waking at 6:00am and timing the arrival of each bus so that I would get to work on time. I would typically get home after 7:30pm every day. That went on for about three months, but I made it a goal that by the three-month period I would have saved enough to put a down payment on a new car and get my own place. At the third month period, I took my ass on a Saturday morning to a Burbank car dealer and bought myself a brand new 30K Mazda Miata (convertible).
That was 20 years ago.
I survived college through federal grants and loans. Grants is free money for college if you qualify but you have to apply for them and can only be used for college tuition and loans for my college spending like books, rent and food. Both programs required that I maintain an above C+ GPA which was never an issue for me.
I graduated with a 21K college debt. My debt was from the Stafford loan program which had a set 1.25% interest rate for 10 years. I had a $125.00/monthly payment and was given 10 years to pay it off. I paid it well before that.
Life is a challenge: every hour, day, week, month and year for as long as you are alive.
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This may not be helpful to your stated goals
https://www.humaniplex.com/blogs/700047/#6972172
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@kait.. never believe that there is light at the end of the tunnel because it's either a train coming at you or a neurologist checking for your pupils reflexes.🤣🤣 joke aside 😘🌹 use this experience to see life and humanity true colors and their worth. would you find a kind soul out there may be, perhaps but sorry to tell you little girl you are on your own and as harsh tough I sound and I am it comes from a place of love belive, been there done that and have the Tshirt to prove it. Coming from a corporate environment made me the tough women that I am. Once you develop and own your own self and develop a tough shell no one and nothing can and will ever hurt you. Will you have those days that seams that the entire universe is conspiring against you thats when you true self emerge victorious. That's how the most valuable, rare and brilliant diamonds are created. Value your experience and when you are back on your feet respect others and don't ever bend backwards or you'll break. Much more love and best of luck 🙏
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I can totally relate to what you’re going through. I know how much a real fridge, home cooked meals, or stability can shift your perspective, but just remember, things will get better with time and a positive mindset! Therapy really helped me get my thoughts and goals in order. You’re not alone, and I hope things start looking up soon. Xoxo ❤️
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Nothing turns me on quite like homelessness & poverty.
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I can completely relate as I'm in a similar situation, but with 2 dogs. Thankfully I still have my car. I honestly don't know what I'd do if I didn't have it while being homeless. I'd feel so trapped, destitute and desperate. I have to commend you on your positive attitude considering the current situation you are in. I don't think I could be as positive as you have been. I admire your strength & determination.
As someone mentioned above, you are so young and you have a whole lot of living to do and it will get better if you just keep pushing on and persevering through the ups & downs. It's easier said than done, I know. And I'm sure you're tired of hearing that. As I get tired of hearing it too. If I had the means to help you make your life a little easier, I would without a doubt, but unfortunately I don't because I'm struggling as well.
Isn't there anyone on this site that could donate an old (or new) car to help this girl. Even if it's a beater, at least it will help her get to school and back to her hotel, making her life a little more manageable. Perhaps you can arrange some sort of barter even. Just an idea. Nevertheless you'd be making a huge impact on another human beings life. Also you can use the donation as a tax write-off, so it's a win win for all.
I know you'll get through this. Just hold on tightly to your hopeful & positive attitude because it's so damn easy to become jaded & angry, as well as sad & lonely. I hope for you all the best in life... You deserve that!
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I doubt there is any reportable income that would trigger a filing requirement. Hence nothing to write off.
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AF correrct, most folks don't know shit about taxes here. A low income person unless they donate roughly $15k as their only itemized deduction could have net charity deduction of $400 as the standard deduction for 24 is 14,600.
You get what you pay for though I do suggest any of these ladies to report at least enough income to pay rent, car, eat etc unless they're going to say all the deposits were gifts and get letters from te donors stating so, which is not going to happen.
Do, for tax advice go somewhere else to someone who knows?
taxartiste
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If they hsve regular jobs in addition to gifts then thry msy be ok. I have several regular jobs to cover and explain things. The friends I have mostly provide trips and presents for me.
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