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Daddy candidates?
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When the ask about my race, I respond: 440
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Indi 500
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Just lie, lie lie!
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Is it a polite way of saying , No AA.
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Name:
Gus Polinski
Occupation:
Polka king of the midwest
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Sounds like screening to me.
Every woman screens differently.
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^ all they really need to do is check the network and also hit blogs about? If someone has a weak or inconsistent network, skip it
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@SoCalMaria. The problem is if that is all a provider relies on for screening, that's not very good. People lie all the time (both men and women). Big1234 said it and I agree about network and blogs. A person's network and what they say in blogs will tell you much more about a person. Some might be attempting to filter out AAs or whoever due to bad experiences. Other get more creative and request dick pics. The common denominator is most providers are simply trying to find some sense of comfortability with the inquirer that they have yet to meet. Keep in mind that communication is interaction, and the smart fellas out there are also sizing you up based on the questions and information you are asking for.
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@AFMadness ...hit the nail on the head. Game set match!!!!! Enough Said!!!
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Lol due to "bad experiences"
Yeah bad experiences with their pimp (whose rule is "no AA") once he finds out.
In all my years of this hobby I've never had a single bad experience with an AA client. Not one.
also never met an independent provider that just arbitrarily doesn't service AA clients. Not ONE.
In fact, somebody having that rule is like the #1 red flag that they are not in fact independent at all.
Carry on HX..
I take that back I do know of one provider that didn't see AA and was in fact independent but she herself was also AA and an anomaly of sorts in all ways and definitely an outlier that shouldn't be factored into any assessment of anything typical. (Shouts out to ATG iykyk)
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AF Madness I believe you’re correct , that’s why I skip those asking those particular questions.
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@Bigguy I do the same when I see that type of response. I suggest others (it's clear what "others" mean) do the same when they receive such responses because there are others here and elsewhere that will gladly engage, mount , and dismount and feel good doing you.
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Stupid as hell I say 🤣🤣 specially on this site if the perspective guest doesn't have any network or recent activities, move on as simple as that. However if someone operates out of this network definitely screen process it's a must. I have hire handlers who answer my other adds once they have been verified I a get a notification from there i take over. A bit pricey but well worth it, filters out all the unnecessary and understandable spam 🤣 next time they ask you what's your race use this the following: "HUMAN RACE"!!! there are only 2 possible answer space aliens 👽 or human race 🤩.
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Never asked for occupation but I’ve had a habit of asking for age and race out of curiosity..
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providers are free to ask any question they like. its their safety concerns. if you have a problem w that see somebody else. pretty simple.
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Asking for occupation is pointless, the professionals gents would just lie. Race is obvious to avoid the larger AA, and age is to avoid time wasters that typically come from young gents.
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Once a guy gave me a description of himself but during my reference checks the ladies described him way differently . He said he was white, one girl said Asian and the other said Hispanic
Come to find out the guy was sharing his handle with his friends
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ATG actually was open to seeing AA. I was once told that they were discouraged from seeing AA due to clientele of other races threatening not to see them if they did.
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^^^^^^ 100%
It's the person's screening process. Just means they care about who they are seeing. Safety and peace of mind make a world of difference.
You want your provider to be relaxed and comfortable, right? A comfortable provider is a happy provider 
The networking system here is great.. but do not just rely on that alone. People share handles, have multiple handles, delete or get deleted and try to come back.
It's wild out here.
If you don't want to screen move on to a person who doesn't, which IMO is wild.
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I was always under the impression that asking for your occupation is another way of asking if you are affiliated with law enforcement.
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Mr. Magnum if that's the case we know what that is! PM me ! Don't want to get off topic here. Or delve into unnecessary commentary .
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Looking for black guys to screen out.
Society still has a stigma on them, especially in Irvine, Costa Mesa, etc. Try running a secret brothel in those places and have a bunch of black dudes running in and out all day. It attracts attention. And the last thing they want is attention.
The simple truth is that white and Asian dudes blend in there, like vanilla. Just like everyone else. No one notices. But a black dude, no matter how well dressed, under dressed, well groomed, educated or mannered, will attract negative attention in those places if he's an unknown or outsider. If he's a known resident, then not so much.
Not my rule, don't attack the messenger! S-O-C-K-S .... Eso si que es.... It is what it is.
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@Yellow! ...it is, what it is man. You can't change the world. You gotta navigate past that, This societal stuff will be here when me , you, and others here are dead and gone. We all have to control what we can control , and live the best life that we can live as individuals. Life is too short to dwell on this type of thing. If you do, you will lose focus and miss out on other more important things life has to offer.
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I like to have an idea of who I am sharing my time with.
More often than not, I connect with people on more levels than one. Sometimes I am in a mindset of working hard on certain projects and like to chat or hang out with people who are well educated in that field.
But also, how much you are willing to communicate and present yourself gives me a really great read on the type of gentleman you will be. Manners and Hygiene and Reliability seem to follow being well articulated and polite.
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It’s definitely part of screening but not just the only screening when working on other sites and maybe even here , I ask those questions because I want to know who I’m dealing with and what to expect when you walk through my door , I’m personally not asking to filter out AA because I see AA clients since I’ve ever started , I also ask but I want to make sure it’s going to match all
The other things I ask for during screening that’s all , it’s part of my process and what makes me feel comfortable , and if you don’t feel comfortable answering my questions that’s fine not a problem we’re probably just not a good match
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@Luscious_alexa comments come across as the most sincere, and open minded. She seems really likeable.
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Psst, there's something on your nose.
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@Soc that's true!!!
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It's all that goddamm DEI!
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@BillyBobJackson thank you I appreciate that love ☺️
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I accept all shapes colors and sizes 🤪🤪
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I ask for age but not race, but after what June Moon shared I might start wanting some kind of description.
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Whatever you do, good lord get a PM from the person. Dont just rely on text message.
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I see a lot focusing on race, but what about profession.
I see ladies stress hygiene (rightfully so), and request clean, cut nails to avoid sensitive scratches.
What about blue collar folks - mechanics, oh, and especially plumbers who are working with their hands all day.
A lady certainly can direct things like no DFK and the like, and no fingers to stimulate - but do any girls refuse to see guys (like plumbers) that might have shit under their fingernails?
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Remo people should be constantly washing their hands anyways so some women probably don't mind..
For me, idc what you do as your profession as long as you're clean. Some people are blue collar men and still are not clean. They don't shower daily and have trash all over their homes
Nothing worse than giving a BJ and smelling ass 😭🙃lol
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^^^ LOL, I don't know how you ladies do it!
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SBH
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I can understand asking for age and race, it’s screening, someone once told me it’s a little helpful to have any idea who’s going to be knocking on your door in an hour lol
The occupation thing seems a little weird to me. But if that’s what it takes to make the ladies feel a little at ease to do what they do, who am I to question it
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It’s just screening. Pm first, then send a text. If you text out of the blue… then they have all the right to ask you questions. If you take forever to respond or just sound weird, then they will just not feel comfortable. I personally like to send a description of myself just in case. I think the ladies appreciate that and in return provide better experience. Especially if they get excited 
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It's something that I don't ask for but recently I found out it could be because some guys share accts, so for safety reasons I understand why ppl request the info
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Trust me, if one is a Mechanic and works on cars all the time, it will take 2 weeks of washing, unless they wear gloves all the time. Which these days seem to be.
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I don't see much of a need to ask those questions from any HX guy with a some recent and verifiable network entries, but a newbie with no network will get screened just like any other new prospective client outside of HX. And yes, when that happens those questions are a little intrusive, but they help in the overall screening process.
There are a myriad of apps that help in the screening process and I use several of them* to screen non-HX prospective clients (or HX newbies). It is all about developing a sense of security that I am not going to be robbed, beat up, or end up in cuffs** (non-intentional that is, lol).
That girls will avoid certain types of prospective clients is their prerogative, just like when guys avoid certain types of girls. It should never be seen as an afront to be asked those questions, its just business. We all want to get a sense of what I call "on-line chemistry" before jumping into the real thing.
* often times not recognized in the "cost of doing business" - but it most certainly is.
** something we should ALL be interested in.
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I will say that the vast majority of the screening questions are designed to keep us girls out of cuffs. And understandably I will NOT publicly discuss how the information is used to accomplish that as it would be giving away "trade secrets" that ALL GIRLS should be protective of. And truth be told, if we share even one trade secret with the wrong guy it could end up being outed on USASG or some other platform. When that happens, and the people with those cuffs learn about it, they change tactics in an attempt to work around that particular aspect of the screening.
I don't really care about someone's occupation, only as it applies to the broader screening process - and part of that process is to see if I can catch the person in a obvious lie, which puts me on high alert in dealing with this person.
I know, and fully expect that the other party is probably giving me a fake name. No problem.
I know, and fully expect that the other party probably has a B-phone. No problem.
I know, and fully expect that the other party probably has a unique email address just for hobbying. No problem.
There are some lies (or rather, "misrepresentations") that are OK while some others are not:
If a person claims to be an Insurance salesman when in fact they are really a Doctor then that is perfectly understandable. But if someone claims to be a Doctor when in fact they are not then that raises a red flag because there seems to be no legitimate reason to do that other than to intentionally mislead me when it is absolutely not necessary.
Screening is like being a detective and utilizing several tools to analyze several bits of information (and the more bits the better) in order to get to the only truth that really matters; not who they really are or what they do, but rather are they safe? Will I be home in bed tonight or a holding cell?
Don't take the screening questions too serious, but don't tell an overt lie either! But I will agree that on the unique platform that HX is, I don't see the need to use heavy screening in most cases, aside from verifying that I am communicating with a legitimate HX member in good standing and not an impostor. Outside of HX you will probably be under a microscope looking for any bad juju!
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For the sake of argument let's assume when a lady asks for race, age, occupation that she is trying to avoid AA , old guys, young guys, etc.
I would rather have a lady reject seeing me because I am too old, too fat, etc. rather than spend time and money on a subpar experience because the lady really does not want to see me.
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I always ask for age, description and job. Why? I like to know who I am seeing. It is my way of screening. And these questions I ask can say a lot about a person, it gives you a sense of who they are. Even better is a phone call, wow just a few words on the phone and you know.
Regardless of what I do for a living, I still have the right to pick and choose who I see. Safety first, and I have turned someone away at the door more than once. One time because it was a person I had blocked and tried to avoid as he was a bit of a stalker. Then he came at me with another screenname and showed up at my door, whipped his clothes off and laid on the bed, THEN I looked at him and recognized him. I asked him to leave and after a little argument he did and I gave him some gas money to smooth things over, watched him leave, then I booked out of there.
And I know this might rub some people wrong but there are certain types out there who I will not see and those types have absolutely nothing to do with race. Rather certain traits i do not enjoy. Race, thats not an issue for me. I am an equal opportunity fucker.
We are not trying to be difficult. I always remind myself that everybody has feelings and its not easy contacting us. Takes some nerve to do what we do too.
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Don_boy just come back & see me 😍🥰😘
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I can understand screening a guy on HX who doesn't have very many girls or recent network activity. But for ones who have an extensive and active network I don't really see the point.
The best thing to do is to reach out to girls who recently added them to their network if you're really that concerned about the aforementioned group of guys.
I read the canned responses of girls whom I pm about details and I totally disregard any screening requests, although honestly, I don't see that many girls requesting that type of information.
If what they offer is what I enjoy and within my price range I will inquire further. I don't remember anyone in my entire time on HX reply asking me for that screening information after I have pm'd her showing an interest in setting something up.
If anyone would, I just wouldn't go any further.
HX is a unique site in that it facilitate interaction before, and after encounters to help prevent issues. It's up to each member to take advantage of those advantages to ensure they have a fun and safe experience.
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